Wedding speeches are one of the most memorable parts of a reception. They can be heartfelt, funny, emotional, or all three—but deciding who should speak can be tricky. Too many speeches and guests get restless; too few, and you may miss some meaningful moments. So, who typically takes the mic at a wedding?
1. The Best Man
Traditionally, the best man gives one of the most anticipated speeches of the evening. It usually includes a few funny stories, words of support for the couple, and a heartfelt toast.
2. The Maid (or Matron) of Honor
The maid of honor’s speech often complements the best man’s. She may share personal memories of the bride, offer well wishes, and highlight the love story that brought the couple together.
3. Parents of the Couple
It’s common for one or both sets of parents to give speeches—often at the beginning of the reception. Parents typically thank guests for coming, welcome everyone, and share their love and pride for the newlyweds.
4. The Couple Themselves
Some couples choose to say a few words of thanks, especially to their families and guests for celebrating with them. This doesn’t have to be long—just a short acknowledgment goes a long way.
5. Optional Speakers
Depending on your wedding style, you might include siblings, close friends, or even grandparents. Keep in mind, though, that the more people who speak, the longer your reception timeline will stretch.
How to Decide
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Some couples want a traditional lineup of speeches, while others keep it minimal. The key is balance—choose speakers who represent the most important relationships in your life, and make sure speeches don’t drag on too long.
Tips for Smooth Speeches
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Limit the list: 3–5 speeches is usually the sweet spot.
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Set time expectations: Ask speakers to keep it around 3–5 minutes each.
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Check with your DJ/MC: They can help organize the order and timing so everything flows.
Tip: If you’re having a Maine wedding with a packed evening schedule—like a lobster dinner, lawn games, or fireworks—keep speeches short and sweet so you don’t lose momentum.